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Humility and Grace in Relationships

Richelle Taylor November 28, 2024 Overcoming Challenges and Life Reflections 0
It took me an entire 42 years—and about 16 years in a relationship with someone—to truly appreciate humility and grace in relationships. As part of this realization, I’ve also come to understand that this can only happen when there is 100% commitment. Not just commitment to the person, but to the relationship itself.

There’s a necessary giving away of pride, of the principle, of the need to make a point or intentionally wound your partner when we are truly committed. Because the truth is, I’m only winning if my partner is winning. If my partner is hurt, I’m hurt. I cannot injure someone I love without injuring myself as well.

When both people accept this and agree to honor it, grace naturally finds its place in the relationship. We sometimes forget, when we come together in union, that we are still two separate people—we see differently, we need differently, and we give differently too. When we choose to love with humility and grace, we create space for forgiveness and understanding. We allow and accept each other’s shortcomings and missed steps, and in those moments, it becomes second nature to speak with kindness, to listen with kindness, and to soothe one another. Because where there are missed steps, there is often hurt. And when one partner hurts, the other does too.

Of course, this is far more difficult than it sounds. We’ve all been hurt by loving and forgiving the wrong people, and that pain makes us hesitate to try again.

It takes courage to jump in with both feet. It’s terrifying, and I’ve been split open by the loss of love. At one point, I didn’t think I’d come back together. But I did. And while I’m no longer with the person I shared those 16 years with, the lessons I learned about humility, grace, and love remain true.

A relationship without humility and grace is bound to be filled with strife. But with them, love becomes something pure, joyful, and worth every effort. Even in the endings, there is something to be grateful for: the growth, the understanding, and the strength to love again—with humility, with grace, and with courage.

 

Richelle Taylor

Richelle Taylor is Realtor, Investor, Educator, Entrepreneur and Mother. She began her career early on having earned her real estate license at the age of 18 while in college at Shaw University, an HBCU located in Raleigh, NC.